I have known my Grandmother from about the age of 3. I first met her when my mother found it sound enough to keep us with our father for the period of time that was hardest for her to live with us. In Africa, it is normal for grand children to from time to time meet with their grandparents during seasonal holidays, but in worst case scenarios, grand children have had to grow under the care taking of their grandparents incase of death of their parents or the absence of one parent, especially- the mother.
Mine was a situation that arose from other situations beyond what I could recognize or pinpoint as a 3 year old.
Living with a grandmother is real fun as a child though is also quite lonesome especially if her day to day job is farming; and thus her day's labors start by 5am till 11am. This in itself meant there was no one in the house to care for how you awoke or cleaned up in the morning. Breakfast in such situations was a luxury, so leftovers from the previous night's supper came in handy for an early morning stomach refill.
My father lives in the same courtyard as his mother as is custom for the last borne son to keep and nurture the continuation of the customary land. Since my father had by then remarried having separated with my mother, my sister and I could not live in the same house as my father and his new family. Thus begun my time of life with my grandma Balbina Atyang Oloo.
Strong and hardworking in nature, my grandmother tilled the land for food, and used the ordinary 3 stone cooking stove fueled by firewood to prepare all our meals. She did also brew local beer- Ko'ngo, and Waragi-ethanol, for income, and would thus sometimes host a bunch of drinking men and women in her living room for a communal drink up.
For the 2 years I lived with my grandma, I also realized that she was very culturally ritualistic- in the sense that she made sure to attend most of the events that happened around within the community like, parties, vigils, naming ceremonies, and funeral rights. Most of what I remember is that after the death of my grandfather after my arrival, my grandmother was never around as she attended more and more vigils and stayed away for a long time, and in case somebody else died, she'd come for a change of clothes and be off for close to 3 or more weeks.
I had not taken a deeper look and interest into understanding the challenges and changes faced by the aging and elderly in my community. Being an Instructor and participant in the Parallel Portraiture of the Elderly with the students of Uganda Christian University, and Minerva Art Academy brought me to light with these challenges. Earlier before the project, I had the opportunity to visit my grandma who is about 97 years old right now, when she came around the city for a medical procedure on her hip which she dislocated 3 years earlier when she was met with tragic news of the death of her eldest son, my father's eldest brother Charles. photo.php, photo.php
The doctors could not carry out the medical procedure on her since my grandma was weak and very elderly, this in itself means that she in constant pain and has difficulty with mobility till now. She right now is not in position to control the passing of urine, and stool and needs constant care form an attendant due to inability to move to the bathroom.
Elderliness in Africa was and is prestigious since the elderly were and are still considered as the keepers of wisdom and history, and within them the embodiment of the cultural traits and norms of the peoples of each individual community. Urbanization has posed a great challenge to the elderly who cannot keep up with the growth of technology and the migration of many persons from rural to urban areas leaving only the elderly back in the rural areas, and likewise many elderly persons in urban areas retiring from civil service and no longer have a stable income except pension money, and no one to care for their daily an immediate needs.
This a quote from one of my posts on the Parallel Portraiture of the Elderly project Facebook page, on the essence of community on the welfare and sustainence of the lives of the elderly;
"In our discussion on portraying the elderly, I have come to learn that community is a very key component in regard to the question of how the old get to enjoy there aging! This arises from the fact that life is best lived when we realize we are NEEDED- in our daily service at places of work, or in just being a granny. Whoever falls short of this fact quickly starts their way down to an untimely death; wholly."
It is important for elderly people to feel needed because this then gives them a cause to live for…in my project, I have sought, above presenting portraits in paint on canvas of my grandmother, to also design for her easy to wear, wash and quick drying garments to help her through her current challenge of constantly soiled and wet clothes. Her challenge may not get any better, but a series of extra garments for a quick change will do some good service in this challenge.
